What I can help with

Help relieve medical conditions

Many conditions such as psoriasis, eczema, asthma, irritable bowel syndrome, chronic pain and migraine may have an emotional component. Stressful events often trigger an outbreak because emotions affect health, and vice versa.

Stress is caused when we feel unable to cope with the demands placed on us. This is generally as a result of innate emotional needs not being met in balance, or misuse of our resources.

Whatever the cause of your stress, counselling from a Human Givens approach will help you to understand what is happening to you, to make sense of your experience, to identify which of your emotional needs are not being met and how you might resolve this. You will also be taught relaxation techniques.

Stop addictive behaviour

Whatever our cultural background, we are all born with essential physical and emotional needs and, if we are born healthy, the innate resources or tools to help us fulfil these needs. When these emotional needs are not met in balance, or our resources are misused, we experience considerable distress. We may seek ‘quick fixes’ to help us feel better.

Anything that changes mood quickly has the potential to become addictive. Addictive behaviour is greedy behaviour. The addictive ‘trance’ fools the person into believing that their needs for control, self esteem, intimacy, meaning, etc. are being met in a genuine way.

I can help you to understand what you are experiencing, help you to realise which of your emotional needs are not being met and how you might resolve that, and support you on your journey towards an addiction free life.

Manage anger

Anger is a resource given to us by nature to help us defend ourselves and our territory. It is a normal human emotion which we need to be able to express appropriately. However, pure anger is terrifying to see in others and can feel overwhelming when it erupts in ourselves.

There is always an explanation for an anger outburst, although it may be hidden from you at the moment.

Counselling using a Human Givens approach will give you the knowledge and skills to be able to control your anger instead of allowing it to control you.

Counselling using a Human Givens approach will give you the knowledge and skills to be able to control your anger instead of allowing it to control you.

Treat psychological trauma

Our understanding of Post Traumatic Stress Disorder has greatly developed in recent years, to such an extent that it can be treated effectively, very often in a short number of sessions.

P.T.S.D. can be triggered not just by war or terrorist incidents but by relatively common everyday incidents such as car accidents, burglary, heart attack, mugging or a difficult pregnancy or childbirth.

The symptoms triggered are as a result of an emergency response to a perceived danger to the individual. If a stimulus coming in matches to a previous event that was traumatic, then the brain has the power to switch on the panic mechanism and the person can feel terrified in milliseconds. When this happens the logical thinking part of the brain gets blocked and we can feel overwhelmed by feelings of panic and dread. The trauma literally becomes programmed into the brain.

The cycle of depression

Depression is the result of an interaction between changing sociological conditions and personal psychology.

Depression is not caused by adverse life experiences, but by the way we have learned to respond to these. Many people have faced difficult situations in life or lost someone close to them and yet have not developed clinical depression.

Counselling, using the Human Givens approach, will help you to understand what is happening to you, will help you to realise any fundamental emotional needs not being met, will teach you a way of relating to the world that challenges your negative thoughts and will help you to get meaning and joy back in your life as soon as possible.

Reduce anxiety

Psychological stress can be defined as the state arising when the individual perceives that the demands placed on them exceed (or threaten to exceed) their capacity to cope (Martin 1997).

Anxiety may be experienced as a sense of foreboding, or apprehension, a feeling that something awful is going to happen. This may be focused on specific concerns such as fears about one’s own health, fears about a family member, or concerns about finances, etc., or it may be more vague; you can’t quite put your finger on what is worrying you but you are aware of feeling very uncomfortable.

Counselling using the Human Givens approach will help you to understand what is happening to you, will teach you practical relaxation techniques for managing your anxiety or panic attacks, will help you to look at what is out of balance in your life and how you can resolve it.

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